Autism, Life & Learning
Its a two for one today, mainly because this post should been done this week and the last post should have been done last week but the our internet company decided to forget about us.
So this is the last topic in this and its about gender and sexuality, I’m going to add relationships in as well just to give a fuller picture. Word of warning this is going to get complicated really quick and its going to get odd very quickly. So you have been warned. So I'm guessing anyone you is reading this knows about LGBT+, I know I have missed most but for the sake of simplicity, anyway if not L is Lesbian, G is Gay, B is Bisexual and T is Transgender and the + is for everyone else who comes under their banner. Here where it will get confusing. A lot of people with autism are LGBT+, but for most who aren’t we don’t have definitive gender. We can be seen as male, female, slightly feminine, slightly masculine, Male but very feminine- although not gay, Female but very masculine- although not a lesbian. Right I can hear people like that saying that seems normal so far what wrong with any of this? Those who are slightly or are very feminine but are male have either learned their sexuality from the wrong sex or they don’t understand what gender they are but know what they are anatomically. The same along the female side. For most people the gender and sexuality are in their brains who and what they are, for most of us nope. Okay lets put things into confusing matters. If you are still on board then lets see if this stumps you. A lot of people with autism and mainly Asperger’s can be heterosexual but we can have moments where we still look at the same sex and think that they are attractive. I’m going to talk a bit about relationships again this one is odd. Lets go from the start. Asking someone out is hard, but most people with autism or Asperger’s thinks that they must know whom ever they maybe must be know they have autism/Asperger’s usually they flee by that point- my experiences anyway. Before any of that they have to make sure they can be trusted and that they don’t freak with any twitches or behaviours we have. So if they can be trusted, can deal with our behaviours and they know they have autism we try and make them friends or acquaintances from there we use our own scale of our friendship before asking. If no we try and keep them close if yes they we change are whole system for them. Within that we know that we may not know what we are and what we understand gender or sexuality. So we can be a bit confused. Then you have the quirks of each person, in my case I don’t like being touched or touching people, so you can see where the issues are and to top it as I keep saying I have limited emotions so if I can have any type of relationship it would be more like a close friendship then anything, which sounds a little sad but I don't really care I can mimic certain emotions so I try and make up for what I miss. This is the last post for this seires. I will plan some more things like this I think I might do a seires about how we view the world. There will be some odd post on here from then but I’m going to mainly plan this.
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First a quick catch up I passed my TMA 04 which is good. I have just TMA 05 to do and my assessments, an exam through course work, for this module. I'm just getting ready to go back to Nottingham and whilst training I may have caught a bit of sun stroke- but I can't stroke the sun because apparently it 'too hot’ .
This one is going to be an odd one. This post is going to be how some people on the spectrum don't feel like they are human, or should I say they don't feel like homo sapiens. There are two main ways to look at this. 1) They feel like they can do everything better then the standard homo sapiens because their 'gifts' give them an unusual amount of input to the world around them. I kinda fall in this category with my 'gifts' I can mimic and adapt to virtually any situation or environment given to me with near precision hence the nickname Gecko. From this things like adverts or sublimate messages don't work on me because they become part of the environment I’m in. Some As I have mentioned have a very high empathic skill these know and can feel peoples feeling around them or they can sense the atmosphere they are in and sense each individual persons emotions- One skill I would like. 2) They feel don’t fit in the mould where they think they are human but feel more like a computer and can relate more to something technological then biological. They can come from how fast we think- I might talk about that later on. We also have meltdowns or shutdowns which are explained and kinda look like a computer crashing. A lot of us have a high or good memory which can seem like a computer storage system. Sorry this is so short. This kind of an odd one that doesn't really get talked about so I though I would put as part of this set up. This might help with the next post I will put up. Right first of all catch up, I have finshed my 4th TMA and I decided to run yesterday, 11th, and well I tried in 27C to run 5 mile I got 3.5 miles and a tiny bit of heat stoke. Then a sensory overload because of the heatstroke- I don't like heat.
This topic is going to be a kinda fun one because the only I can describe somethings are going to describe or explain I might have to use song lyrics. I am hopfully going to talk about friends or at least my idea of friendship. This is kinda common some people with autism have rules, as with everything we have rules. I will run through my basic rules to show how bad some of these can be. If i can i will try to explain so of them. 1) Have to be able to keep up with me mentally- so if can speak to them and don't have to dumb anything down. 2) Have to be female- its a precourtion most males are either agressive and/or posessive through evoultion so stop me mimicing or adopting any traits. 3) Have to be paitent- I tend to deither around so paitents helps also if they are calm, I should be. 4) Should be understanding- I tend either not to listen or I if i shutdown, I hope they understand. 5) Have to be accepting- I don't like bigots,racists or people who try and sway views. Right these are basic rules from there more rules spring off. I will run through the stages of friendship for me as well i think most are accepted but i will run through them anyway. Stage 1) acquaintance Stage 2) higher acquaintance- Males go no higher then here. Stage 3) Outline friend- most people who fit the rules end here (This is where the rules start to apply) Stage 4) Friend- have one or two people between here and stage 5 Stage 5) Fixed Friend- More commonly known as a best friend So its quite hard to fit on to the scale. That was the idea because i got bullied from a young age this was my way of filtering out fake friends. All of this is basic of logic, not common sense partly because i have very little but also have and keeping friends needs emotions. I don't have a big enough emotional range and the higher up the stage the more emotional envolement you are meant to have with them. Some people have to me they are just friends, but i am meant to look after friends. If I lose that connecton with someone in that stage 4-5 its more like 'Since you been gone' - Rainbow. It's relivent and a bad pun at the same time . I think that is enough because i will be cover some of this in the Gender blog later on. Well this firstly isn't an argument more bigotry or ignorants, take your pick. For anyone whos dosen't know too much about autism I will run the basics off.
Firstly because Austim is known as Autism Spectrum Disorder(ASD), or Autism Spectrum Condition(ASC). Autism is a 'developmental' disorder, this meant to happen as we develop but before birth. That is pretty much everyone knows about that bit. Autism allows that person to become sentive to sound, light, tates and touching or just all of them.Autism affects social and communition skill aswell as motor fine and gross funtion skills, thats movement skill. Fine motor are small/fine movements like threding needles and gross movements are big moments like walking. It can also affects speach, thats why some are non-verbal or have a stammer. Also most have a talent of some kind and perfect pitch or can at least sense perfect pitch. Anyway thats enough of that. Heres the cure 'argument' There are people who think that autism can be cured because it is a condition or a disorder. These come in a variety of things such as; spells, medication, being beaten or just being locked in a room by your self. I'm not going to say what type of people do this. The reason they think they can cure autism is because its a condition and we look normal on the outside so why are we odd in the inside. That is the basis they think we can be cured by any of that. The question these people haven't thought about is do we need a cure? Yes it can be hard work. Yes it can be annoying not understanding people but Autism makes us uquine people. Lastly a question for anyone who belives in this cure or for anyone who wants to ponder it. Before you answer people with autism 1/5 of elements on the peirodic table, we expanded the field of knowledge in Chemistry, Physics, Mathematics, Biology, Design and Electronics- without autism you may not be reading this from your computer, tablet or phone. That what i can think off the top of my head. Without autism the world would be different because its our 'out of of the box' thinking that has found these things and more. Why would you want to cure autism? That is the cure arugement folks- it is a simple argument but also a little silly aswell. It's been a while since my last blog post so here is a little catch up. I've raced up in Nottingham and came first in my final and beat the Girls4Gold team, which is nice broke a couple records for Exeter but still no medal :/ . My fourth assingment is due soon and the tutorial for this assignment was last week and guess how many people turned up... Yep ONE, me. I know I'm special but I didn't need a whole classroom to myself. Anyway here is some, I'm not saying all but these two are quite popular, what I mean by that is people who work in the autism field and when i got tested they asked "which argument do you support". I will try and be neutral and list pros and cons of each if I miss something please say.
Argument 1- Autism is a evolutionary step. I know as first glace its sounds odd. This is the arument as I understand it. As most reasonable minds see things there is a thoery of evoulution. In this we came from lizards or small mammals of the time and further back it crated eyes, ears and most of our anatomy as we know it now. Where autism comes in is a lot of us have hightened senses may this be hearing, seeing, smell, touch, taste or all of them. This is a state of evolution which hasn't completely finshed because the brain hasn't mapped these functions as being that heightened so to cope with this each function has a shut off point where it overloads. It explains why there is no uniformity in autism. Some other evidents to back it up is that evolution is in constate flux and some of us have better memory, pain toleration and reflexes. Although some of this has to be taught, its there. So depending on this scale it shows people how evolved they are. Also the number of people being diagnosed with autism is growing so it kinda shows that they are more and it is growing soon autism maybe the norm- which will be a change. This is a rough explanation for everyone, but here are the pros and cons. Pros: - It explains autism -It explains why we have better senses then 'normal' people - Explains the spectrum a little more Cons: - It doesn't explain how we have evolved - Some things have to be taught - It doesn't explain the personality quirks most people with autism have such as being obnoxious or things like twitching Argument 2- Autism is the human idea of a sacrificial lamb This runs of the same idea with the evolutionary setting. As most reasonable minds see things there is a theory of evolution. In this we came from lizards or small mammals of the time and further back it crated eyes, ears and most of our anatomy as we know it now. Where autism comes in is a lot of us have heightened senses may this be hearing, seeing, smell, touch, taste or all of them. This is a state of evolution which hasn't completely finished because the brain hasn't mapped these functions as being that heightened so to cope with this each function has a shut off point where it overloads, this is where we would get either killed or put in serous danger. Instead of being the more advance idea of people, we are sacrificial lambs who help the collective survive. Apart from those with good memory's because they would record what had happen so the rest of the 'pack' or group you are with don't make the same mistake. Hence why we don't understand danger or have emotions because they aren't needed. Also to help this argument most people with autism when have an overload of sound or emotions will freeze, instead of running or facing it. Pros: - It explains autism -It explains why we have better senses then 'normal' people - Explains the spectrum a little more - It explain some the personality quirks most people, with autism have such as being obnoxious or things like twitching Cons: - It doesn't explain how we have evolved - Some things have to be taught - Isn't explained why it is still needed thousands of years later - Doesn't completely explain atypical autism or the people with autism who can adapt or mimic I hope this was interesting and i will let you pick which one is you think is right. |
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